FOUR DOS AND DONTS FOR WOMEN
DOS
1: Be jolly and you shall enter your husband’s heart from the widest of its gates because the man doesn’t like the depressed and gloomy woman and he loves the woman who minimizes problems and the stresses of life. And constantly say “Allaah is Kareem” so your heart shall be relaxed.
2: Be patient because patience is the key to relief, and if you see in your husband that which doesn’t please you, pick the appropriate time to talk and avoid the times when he is tired and avoid solving the conflict through SMS or MMS.
3: Be satisfied with little because it has been said about being satisfied with little that it is a treasure that never ends. Do not insist on too many extra things if he cannot afford it because the one who has the moon is not in need of the stars.
4: Take care of your appearance and decorate yourself for him because most women only decorate themselves when they are going out and that is a mistake because your husband takes precedence to be decorated for. And do not make your taking care of the house and the kids a reason to neglect your outward appearance because inserting happiness into the heart of the husband is a rewardable act.
DONTS
1: Do not be the type that throws things in his face because the male doesn’t like the woman who throws things in his face and constantly mentions “I sacrificed for you, I did such and such for you…” and if you had sacrificed and been patient for the sake of Allaah then you have the reward, in shaa’ Allaah.
2: Do not be a chatterbox and babble about things that have no benefit in them and avoid obscure questions that are difficult to answer, and if you see your husband speaks little, then that might be because there is something on his mind.
3: Do not exaggerate in your jealousy for him because love is not measured by the degree of jealousy you have for him. Severe jealousy suffocates the man and it might lead to problems that might lead to divorce. Rather feel protective of his Religion as much as the amount of your love for him.
4: Do not raise your voice to your husband and hurt him with speech and actions even if he fell short towards you and don’t forget that the Messenger of Allaah, Sallallaahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said (what means) “The woman does not harm her husband in the dunyaa except that his wife from among the Hoor Al-^Een says, ‘Do not harm him, may Allaah destroy you. Indeed he is with you temporarily and soon he will be with us’.”
In conclusion, my sister, always remember the saying of the Prophet, Sallallaahu ^alayhi wa sallam, “The dunyaa is a mataa^ and the best mataa^ of the dunyaa is the pious woman”.
The dunyaa will not remain forever and the victorious one will triumph with Paradise, so make your husband an avenue for you to reach Paradise.
