Main Lajpalan De Lar Lagiyan- Farhan Ali Qadri With Lyrics

Main Lajpalan De Lar Lagiyan- Farhan Ali Qadri

Mein lajpalan day lar lagiyan meray to gham paray rehnday

Meri aasan umidan day sada butay haray rehnday.

Khayal e yaar wich main mast rehnda haan dinay rateein

Meray dil wich sajan wasda meray deeday tharay rehnday.

Dua mangiya karo sangiyo kithay murshid na rus jaway

Jinhaan day peer rus janday oh junday wii marray rehnday.

Kadhi wii lor nahin paindi main noun dar dar tay jawan di

Main lajpalan da mangta haan meray palay bharay rehnday.

Niyazi (Molana Abdul Sitar Niazi) main noun gham kahda? meri nisbat aye lasani

Kisay day rehn jo bankay kasam Rab di kharay renday.

How To Win The Heart Of Husband

In the Name of Allah, the Most Compassionate, the Most Merciful

Winning the Husband – Saving a Marriage!

May Allah bless you and your family to live in peace and harmony!

Marriage is an institute which can be as firm as a rock or weak as a thread, it is up to the partners to make it either one.    Due to the influence of Shaytaan, bad desires and environment outside and inside the home, sometimes a married man starts making an affair with a non-Mahram woman and may lose interest in his own wife at home.  This article discusses some causes of this problem and a few suggestions for the wife to re-gain her husband’s love.   

At the time of concern and tension in domestic affairs, review your life pattern to see in how many ways you can improve yourselves.

Protection of eyes:

This is one of the biggest concerns in the Ummah today, affecting both the young an old.  The outside environment (streets, markets, workplaces, social events) and media inside homes (TV, magazines, internet) are filled with opportunities to look at non-Mahram faces.   If someone does not protect the eyes and looks with lust and desires, his heart may be occupied with dozens of beautiful faces and may easily forget his own wife.

Disrespect and quarrels at home:

Even if the wife is sincere in her heart, sometimes abusing the tongue on domestic issues may lead the husband to feel disrespected.  If the wife does not treat the husband well, he may find more peace talking to strange women outside home.   Usually the people outside home (for example, at the markets and social events) appear more polite, smiling and keeping a soft and sweet-tone.  This is a ‘big competition’ for the spouse at home to surpass the loving and admiring attitude experienced in the outside world!

Forgiveness and Winning the Heart:

Remember the teaching of the Islam to win the heart:

•          Repel evil with good deeds;

•          Join relations with the one who cuts it with you;

•          Make Salaam to one who does not make Salaam;

•          Forgive those who did bad to you;

•          Keep politeness in all talk, with respect and love;

Allah says in the Noble Qur’an:

“The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend.” [41:34].

“But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character). “[41:35].

This life is all about controlling desires and protecting from the traps of Nafs (self) and Shaytaan.  This is a temporary life where desires and feeling may not be fulfilled completely - the place for enjoyment and desires is Jannah.  This life is all about responsibilities, fulfilling others rights and following the commands of Allah and Sunnah.

List of husband’s likes and dislikes:

Living closely for a period of time, the wife knows the secrets of do’s and don’ts which pleases the husband.  At the time of difficulty and concern, when the husband is not behaving well, extra precaution should be taken and a “selfless” attitude is needed to win his heart.

Make an extra effort to improve your character and fulfill your husbands rights with humility, and Allah will elevate you in your husband's (and everyone) eyes, as the Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) has said," the one who lowers himself for the pleasure of Allah, Allah elevates him. "

If there are particular things that the husband likes, make extra effort in doing it before he asks.  Also, don’t think about his bad qualities, instead concentrate on the good he has.  Remember that Allah has chosen you both to be husband and wife out of His wisdom. 

Looking for rights or love?

“Do not go by the book of ‘My Rights’.  Go by the book of Love, Ihsaan and khidmat.  In other words, if every person goes out of his or her way to fulfill the rights of others, instead of demanding his or her own rights, or goes a step further than just fulfillment of rights, i.e. he or she goes out of his or her way to be kind, caring, loving and forgiving, then automatically this world will become a paradise.” (Hedyatus Saalikeen, selected quotes by Shaykh Yunus Patel, 1998, South Africa)

A warm-welcome of the husband:

When a husband enters home and looks at the wife with love and mercy and wife also looks at the husband with love and mercy, Allah looks at both of them with mercy.  

Entering and leaving home with salam and du’a keeps Shaytaan away.

The beauty and attraction of a woman is for her husband only.  The wife at home should adorn herself for the husband when he arrives home and meet with him cheerfully.  On the other hand, when a woman goes out of her home (for example, for a social event), she should wear simple and modest clothing and observe complete Hijaab in front of non-Mahram.  In practice, this is not followed in today’s society which opens the door of immodesty.

Recommended Readings for wife:

The Rights of Husband by Shaykh Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar

http://www.khanqah.org/books/show/the-rights-of-husband

The Rights of a Husband and his Status* by Shaykh Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani

*Discourses on Islamic Way of Life volume-2, Darul-Ishaat, Karachi, Pakistan (translation of Islahi Khutbaat, translated by Iqbal Hussain Ansari)

Recommended Readings for Husband:

The Rights of Women by Shaykh Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar

http://www.khanqah.org/books/show/rights-of-women

The Status and Rights of a Wife in Islam* by Shaykh Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani

Status of Woman in Islam by Shaykh Ahmed Abdul Mujeeb Qasmi (translated by Muhammad Owais Jafrey) http://www.islameasy.org/K225_WomenInIslam.php

Islam is the only religion which has given woman the status in accordance to her nature and determined her rights and duties according to her personality. Islam gave woman that dignity which no other ideology or faith has ever given.   This 3-part lecture series talks about the status and role of women in society, removes misconceptions and shows how Islam elevates the status of a daughter, sister, wife and mother

  

Note: 

SWT =  Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala

SAW =  Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam

AS   =   AlehisSalamRA =     Radhiyallaho anhu

RAnha= Radhiyallaho anha

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My Final Journey

I am lying on the bed. My children, brothers and sisters are all sitting by my bedside. Some close friends too are standing and overlooking my face.

Suddenly I start breathing with long breaths. Someone among the people sitting in the room starts to recite, Surah Ya'sin. Everyone around repeats with the reciter. My breath starts to ease out. I am opening my eyes and looking at something. Angel of death has arrived. I am getting late for the eternal journey. My mouth has opened up. My brother is dropping some water into my mouth, it is perhaps the "Zam Zam" water which I had preserved for the very moment.

Then everyone starts to recite, "Laa'ilaaha I'llallaah Muhammadur Rasoolullaah".

I have lost my vision. I have lost my tongue, I have even lost my sensation but I can still hear. I can hear my loved ones weeping in grief. I'm not dead yet but I am almost lifeless. Angel of death makes the final act and takes my soul out with an intensive jerk. I have now left this world.

All my wealth, cars, properties, bank balances, contacts and connections are of no use now. My identity is my grave and I am being referred to as 'dead body'.

My near ones are preparing my grave and some of them think it as inauspicious to keep the dead body inside the house for too long. The house which I myself built and lived in is shrinking in space for me.

My bath is being prepared. I am taken out in the compound for the final bath. My bathroom fitted with expensive bath fittings is not for me now.

I am being wrapped in the white cotton shroud. I am boxed in a wooden box for the travel to my grave. My expensive car is not for me now.

For what then did I amass so many worthless things?

Why did I lie to earn the useless wealth? It is of no use to me.

Woe to me for I wasted my life in vain!

I forgot that my last journey is near and certain.

Why did I sin so much?

Oh! I have lost my game!

Now stop imagining. This is going to happen one day with you and me. So be prepared.

Good deeds will make your journey and the life of the Hereafter pleasant!

Remember death. It is certain!! It is so near!!

This world is just a short dream.

Ya Allah

Ya Karim

Ya Gafar 

Ya Rahim 

Ya Mujib

FOUR DOS AND DONTS FOR WOMEN

FOUR DOS AND DONTS FOR WOMEN

DOS

1: Be jolly and you shall enter your husband’s heart from the widest of its gates because the man doesn’t like the depressed and gloomy woman and he loves the woman who minimizes problems and the stresses of life. And constantly say “Allaah is Kareem” so your heart shall be relaxed.

2: Be patient because patience is the key to relief, and if you see in your husband that which doesn’t please you, pick the appropriate time to talk and avoid the times when he is tired and avoid solving the conflict through SMS or MMS. 

3: Be satisfied with little because it has been said about being satisfied with little that it is a treasure that never ends. Do not insist on too many extra things if he cannot afford it because the one who has the moon is not in need of the stars. 

4: Take care of your appearance and decorate yourself for him because most women only decorate themselves when they are going out and that is a mistake because your husband takes precedence to be decorated for. And do not make your taking care of the house and the kids a reason to neglect your outward appearance because inserting happiness into the heart of the husband is a rewardable act.

DONTS

1: Do not be the type that throws things in his face because the male doesn’t like the woman who throws things in his face and constantly mentions “I sacrificed for you, I did such and such for you…” and if you had sacrificed and been patient for the sake of Allaah then you have the reward, in shaa’ Allaah.

2: Do not be a chatterbox and babble about things that have no benefit in them and avoid obscure questions that are difficult to answer, and if you see your husband speaks little, then that might be because there is something on his mind. 

3: Do not exaggerate in your jealousy for him because love is not measured by the degree of jealousy you have for him. Severe jealousy suffocates the man and it might lead to problems that might lead to divorce. Rather feel protective of his Religion as much as the amount of your love for him.

4: Do not raise your voice to your husband and hurt him with speech and actions even if he fell short towards you and don’t forget that the Messenger of Allaah, Sallallaahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said (what means) “The woman does not harm her husband in the dunyaa except that his wife from among the Hoor Al-^Een says, ‘Do not harm him, may Allaah destroy you. Indeed he is with you temporarily and soon he will be with us’.” 

In conclusion, my sister, always remember the saying of the Prophet, Sallallaahu ^alayhi wa sallam, “The dunyaa is a mataa^ and the best mataa^ of the dunyaa is the pious woman”. 

The dunyaa will not remain forever and the victorious one will triumph with Paradise, so make your husband an avenue for you to reach Paradise.

اچھی باتیں Achi Batain

اچھی باتیں  Achi Batain

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Woman who had a faithful dog

There is a story of a woman who had a faithful dog. This dog was so faithful that the woman could leave her baby with it and go out to attend other matters. She always returned to find the child soundly asleep with the dog faithfully watching over him. 

One day something tragic happened. The woman as usual, left the baby in the “hands” of this faithful dog and went out shopping.When she returned, she discovered rather a nasty scene. There was a total mess. The baby’s cot was dismantled and his nappies and clothes torn to shreds with bloodstains all over the bedroom where she had left the child and the dog. Shocked, the woman wailed as she began looking for the baby. 

Presently, she saw the faithful dog emerging from the under the bed. It was covered with blood and licking its mouth as it had just finished a delicious meal. The woman went berserk and assumed that the dog had devoured her baby. Without much thought she clubbed the dog to death. 

As she continued searching for the “remains” of her child, she beheld another scene. Close to the bed was the baby who, although lying on bare floor, was safe. And under the bed the carcass of a jackal torn to pieces in what must have been a fierce battle between it and the dog which was now dead. 

Then the reality hit the woman who now began to understand what took place in her absence. The dog fought to protect the baby from the ravenous jackal. It was too late for her now to make amends because in her impatience and anger, she had killed the faithful dog. A dog deserving praise and adoration that fought to save the life of her dear beloved child received death in return. 

Moral:

How often have we misjudged people and torn them to shreds with harsh words and even with physical assault before we have had time to evaluate the situation? It is called the SIN OF PRESUMPTION. Presuming things are one way without taking the trouble to find out exactly what the situation really is. A little patience can drastically reduce major lifelong errors.